I'm in my mid-30s. I spent a half-decade of my life knowing that I'm a trans woman but unable to act on it, unable to come out to anyone offline or access the resources I needed. Without support from my online peers, from lesbians and trans people, I would have without a doubt perished.
I'm in my late 20s and only survived conversion therapy thanks to knowing there was a way out after I turned 18, because of social media. Cutting queer kids off the internet is explicitly the strategy listed in books like "Irreversible Damage" for parents to exercise conversion practices
If you grieve when your child comes out (as gay or trans or atheist or Socialist or nudist or whatever else), you don't truly love your actual child. You love your *idea* of your child.
But here's the thing, moms and dads: Your child is not responsible for your idea of who you wish they were.