As the inimitable Janelle Monáe sang, everything is sex, except sex, which is power. You know, power is just sex. Now ask yourself who's screwin' you.
And like, sure. But y'know what else is both sex AND power?
Relationships.
I welcome the horny texts but I also get pretty hot for the sappy ones!
Violet "Vi" Rollergirl • NYC 🗽 and touring ✈️ BER 🇩🇪 6/14-21
There were good threads about regulars in sex work recently (dig into my Replies tab) and Cedar sums it up well.
Being a regular means having a certain relationship with a provider defined by, not limited by, the regularity with which you book.
It's "going steady," not "friends & family discount."
Violet "Vi" Rollergirl • NYC 🗽 and touring ✈️ BER 🇩🇪 6/14-21
A regular is someone who books regularly. For some that’s once a week, and for others that‘s once every 3 months on the dot. Regulars don’t receive “perks” like coupons…they stand the benefit of presence, intimacy, confidence, & ease. Seeing a provider over time really is its own relationship.
