Adoptees know this feeling well. This is honestly how most humans behave and look at their progeny. It’s just that most children within a reasonable bound meet the expectations of their parents and the issue never arises. We should stop being surprised. 🥚
i will say it again: “grieving” a child (in this case a 30-year-old fully grown adult) for being gay/trans because you expected and wanted something different for them is a sign of a bad parent and should be widely regarded as unacceptable
