in addition to "discomfort does not equal harm" I wish people also realized that sometimes (actually, most of the time) if there's something uncomfortable in a narrative, it's supposed to be uncomfortable. yes, even if its "romanticized", the author usually trusts you understand it's uncanny.
keep your top/bottom discourse I’m thinking about my favorite ship having a heated make out session and moaning into each other’s mouth and running their hands all over each other’s body and under clothes and grinding and humping ‘til they come in their underwear