You want a vision of "positive manhood"?
Stop being afraid of being like women.
Stop refusing to admit women can be like you. Can be better than you, even.
And stop maiming and killing and destroying in order to preserve that fiction of superiority.
Hegemonic masculinity is usually defined as autonomy, independence, leadership---that which women are not supposed to possess nor aspire to. Gender is in and of itself an act of excluding women from humanity and agency, drawing a boundary between those who possess and those who are possessed.