Abusers constantly change the rules. One day they want one thing, but when you deliver, it’s suddenly not enough. They move the goalposts so you’re always striving to meet impossible standards, feeling inadequate and off-balance, never able to satisfy them.
#CoerciveControl
A known dangerous repeat offender. They need to be on a register. All new partners warned through Clare’s Law. This was an 8 stages homicide.
An abuser creates an environment in which they are the sole source of solace or comfort to their partner.
So, the victim will work hard to preserve the relationship as it is their only means of maintaining connection and fulfilling the deep and human need to belong.
#DomesticAbuse #CoerciveControl
Not everything is as it seems with a controlling abuser - even gestures, gifts, and generosity can come with a hidden agenda.
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I recognised my partner was abusive long before my heart caught up & said no more. Don’t allow yourself to feel regret for feeling stuck & not leaving sooner. Look back at that version of you with kindness & compassion. You did the best you could with what you knew at the time. #DomesticAbuse
You don't have to "believe in yourself" at all times in trauma recovery. You're gonna doubt yourself. I doubt myself. It happens. It's normal.
Here's what I DO always believe, though: in every moment of decision, I CAN make a choice, even a small one, that supports my recovery.
Shadows of Control
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Prof Jane Monckton Smith
🧵 “I thought I’d rather be dead than leave him. He felt like a god to me, but now all I see is evil.”
Kayleigh, 20, endured months of horrific abuse from her ex-partner Callum Cummings, who tormented her throughout her pregnancy and beyond.
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The most dangerous time for a victim is often after they leave an abusive relationship.
The murders of Carol, Hannah, and Louise Hunt by Kyle Clifford are a devastating reminder of this reality.
#VAWG is a national crisis. It has to be treated as such.
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Today is the beginning of 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-Based Violence, International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women and Girls, and White Ribbon Day.
We’re shining a light on the role of Idvas/Idaas and their life-changing work supporting victims/survivors of domestic abuse.
