You can tell when 'queer' venue spaces are written by people who only see one type of queer and that's it.
It is part of the reason I do not reach out as often as I used to because those exact same motherfuckers will infantalize me/my writing. So I just cannot be assed. I have too many things wrong with me physically and mentally that it is just not worth it.
I tend to be a quiet sort that observes a lot of stuff but that leads to folks leaving crumbs that align in ways that make me squint. I can tell when I reach out to folks who express concerns with no one reaching out to them- but I do not fit that want (i.e. I will not bang an OC) so I get exploded.