We’re Changing Direction. Here’s Why.
After six seasons, things are changing - and we want to tell you why before you hear it somewhere else. In this video we're announcing three things: First, we're officially launching The C.U.R.E.™ Method - our trademarked framework for addiction recovery and…
9 Things Addicts Wish Wives Knew (But Rarely Say Out Loud)
If you've ever thought "if he really loved me, he wouldn't have done this" — this video is for you. We asked Jay — a recovered addict and betrayal trauma mentor — to say out loud the things most addicted husbands never explain to their…
MY SHAME over Looking Bad MADE ME the BAD Guy
Have you ever brought your pain to your husband, only to be told "you're shaming me" — and did the conversation end right there? In this episode, Jay admits on camera that he knowingly used shame as a tactic to shut Lori down. Not because she was…
Just Different Levels of Enemies (The Mindset That Kept Him Using)
After 28 years, I finally understand the mind-pretzel logic that kept my husband stuck in addiction: "Everyone leaves because I'm fundamentally broken, so I might as well use porn. But you're NOT allowed to point out my brokenness,…
Soft Accountability Didn’t Work (And I Liked It) – 6.17S
I used to go to meetings where we spent 5 minutes on sobriety and 55 minutes shooting the breeze. The truth? I liked it that way. In this video, we expose the 'Good Old Boy' network and why comfort is the enemy of real change. In this…
EMPATHY DOES NOT ALWAYS WORK (what actually changed me)
"Did my own empathy actually make it easier for you to keep lying?” In this episode, Jay answers 10 hard questions about the hidden dynamics of deception in their marriage. We dive into: •DECEPTION DELIGHT Why some addicts pride themselves on…
I Seemed Like a GOOD GUY. I WASN’T. (My Lying Created a Monster)
The "Good Guy" act was the very thing making me a monster. In this episode, Jay and Lori discuss the "reckoning" that happens when an addict finally stops managing their image. For years, Jay tried to convince himself and everyone…
"I need help."
These are the three most difficult words for men to say, especially to their wives/partners.
Why?
She’s the ENEMY (and I’M AN ABUSER so I dominated her)
"The one I thought you were gonna say is: she's the enemy." For years, Jay didn't just lie to me about his addiction. He lied to himself about WHO I was. And those lies kept him stuck in porn for decades. The 5 lies addicts believe about their…