It's more nuanced than that, but the bottom line is that showing up matters. Even when capacity is limited, being in community and maintaining connection with people requires some effort. Sometimes it's hard. Sometimes it's inconvenient.
But yes, capacity and care are not the same thing. A lack of capacity doesn't mean a lack of love. But love and care are ultimately expressed through action. Period.
To me, that's part of the difference between relational living and hyperindividualism. Relationships can't exist solely when they're easy or perfectly aligned with our capacity.
Connection will always require something of us. Again, it IS nuanced. But it is not complicated.
My beef with SeaWorld been up and it remains stuck 5eva.
Also,we are exhausted and burning out but we are not reaching for one another. You will not heal in isolation the way you think you will. Recovery is often found through connection. We need one another. Everyone has their capacity levels and reaching for one another can lessen the load. For sure
Lol this relates to the beauty and attraction conversation and I would tell you (general) why but I am running on fumes and what good would it even do, really?
We're responsible for the quality of relationships we wish to have. That means that while yes, our limitations matter and accommodations and grace should be considered, it is up to us to manage ourselves as best as we can while owning how we can and are willing to "labor" relationally.
Christabel Mintah-Galloway talks about this A LOT. How we as a collective have got to start re-examining our connection to the hyper individual mindset around community and intimacy. That so many of us dont even realize how closely linked this attitude is to white supremacy itself. A slippery slope!
'They couldn't make that today' but it's just Reading Rainbow.
