I went from
Straight
Am lesbian?? I don’t like boys..
Wait?? Am bisexual/?? I don’t feel MORE strongly for girls than boys..
Pansexual??
Wait asexual!
Why does dating as asexual make me sick??
Am Aromantic??
NO WAIT.
OH SHIT I EQUALLY DON’T LIKE EVERYTHING!! I’m just ARO ACE.
And asking myself what would make me happy? Fulfilled? While not looking to expectations placed by media, etc.
I hope this ramble makes sense. I’m still learning about myself!! And this is just ONE story from ONE aro/ace person.
Like this is a funny way for me to recap this journey of discovery, but MAN you add in my insecurities, trauma, anxiety/depression, bullying, autism, and all the messy crap that made me think “what if I’m not aro/ace, but “something listed above” is just making me aro/ace??”
And it’s EMOTIONAL
I love being aro/ace and seeing how many fellow aro/ace’s also went through the bi/pan portion of “everything is equal… yet… something about this equalness seems… off.”
I’ve tended to always think something was wrong with me if something wasn’t going “right”, so it took a lot for me to feel ‘valid’ in being aro/ace. And not like I’m lying to myself cause I’m secretly using it to avoid some deep seated issue that makes dating SCARY.
The last hurdle I had before truly accepting my being aro/ace was realizing I still yearned for a “partner”. Like a platonic marriage with a bestie who too was aro/ace-spec. And that loneliness was something I felt and struggled with.
YESSSSSS LETS GO ARO ACE PEOPLE!! I love this so much tysm for the aro/ace flag! As an aromantic asexual, I do love seeing all three… thank you for doing the aroace flag ;; ✨⭐️
I still do! But it’s gotten a lot less lonely after realizing I was struggling with it, and it didn’t have to be solved by a “partner”. It could be lessened by growing connections with a variety of friends and family and other means. (I feral foster kittens).
