Remember, there is nothing stopping you from being kind.
Also, there's nothing stopping you from wearing the antlered crown of a long dead forest god, or eating more cheese than is medically recommended.
Perhaps a risky thought to share, but I think about it often:
the privilege that white writers have to not have to be concerned with whether their fiction is representative of any community or element of reality is actually an overwhelmingly thick layer of separation in creative spaces.