Pākehā Londoner; Dr (not the medical kind), existential psychotherapist, supervisor, doctoral research in postmenopause; writer of 17 novels/70+ stories/15 plays, yoga for writing workshops; 2 x breast cancer; knee, hip, & some brain mended with metal
Stella Duffy
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30 things for #Pride. Day 7
My parents were great when I came out. Born in 1921, both grew up working class & poor, awful times in WW2, & knew there were worse things than having a gay kid. Don’t assume your nana won’t understand. Maybe, like my Mum, she’ll just say, “I saw a lot of it in the army.”
30 days of #Pride. Day 12.
We are losing our elders. For those of us who came out in the 70s/80s, the courageous and generous LGBTQIA+ folk who came before paved the way at a time many of us are fearful we're revisiting.
RIP David Hockney, and thank you.
Image: A Bigger Splash @tate
30 days of #Pride day 13
Love is love” isn’t the flex people think it is. Nor is “accepting”. Do you say it “love is love” about straight relationships? Do you say “I accept her” about your daughter coming out as hetero? No? Then don’t say it about us queers. Tolerance is very close to intolerance.
30 things about #Pride. Day 10.
I grew up with no lesbian role models. LaterI discovered they were there, living as safely as possible in difficult times (1960s/70s). Many weren’t out because they knew they’d lose their kids, their jobs, or some, their lives. Not all pioneers carry flags.
30 things for #Pride. Day 8
Yesterday was ‘cancer survivors day’ (USA mainly).
So here’s a reminder that:
a) queers get cancer too &
b) it’s not ‘lucky’ to survive cancer.
It costs a great deal physically & emotionally.
It’s lucky never to have it.
Really enjoyed this conversation with @k8lister.bsky.social about Theodora, my research for my 2 books on her life, and her general brilliance.
30 things about #Pride. Day 11.
Sometimes people will be awful when you come out. Sometimes you’ll need to cut them out of your life for your own sanity. And sometimes you’ll just need to give them time. Sometimes it’s worth the wait, sometimes not. You get to decide either way.
Is it a 'transatlantic argument'? Or is it malevolent foreign interference in British politics by people who have called for civil war here? Who can say?
30 things for #Pride day 9
There have ALWAYS been queer &/or gender-expansive people, in every culture,
in every time.
We’re not new.
We’re ancient.
And we’re not going away.
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“I’m actually horrified that someone would, at a moment that we’re there to remember those heroes who fell for all of us to enjoy the freedoms that we do today, you would launch some sort of political argument about illegal migration.”
www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/labour...
