do you ever think about papalymo having to swallow his grief for yda, his partner of years and years, even before yda joined the circle of knowing, because lyse needed him and asked him for help and he put her above himself
unfortunately i've learned u kinda gotta break out of this if u want to hang out with friends at all... because what tends to happen is every one in ur circle is anxious/autistic so no one ends up making the first move to "bother" and every one ends up lonely